Hear what Dr Dan Siegel says about the myths of adolescence
We can talk about the brain in many ways. You can focus on left hemisphere versus right hemisphere. But you can also look at it from bottom to top, or what we call the “downstairs” and “upstairs” brain.
Imagine that your brain is a house, with both a downstairs and an upstairs. The downstairs brain includes the brain stem and the limbic region, that are responsible for basic functions (like breathing and blinking), for innate reactions and impulses (like fight or flight), and for strong emotions (like anger and fear). Basic necessities get taken care of downstairs.
Your upstairs brain is completely different. The upstairs brain is more evolved and can give you a fuller perspective on your world. It is highly sophisticated and complex, and is responsible for producing many of the characteristics we hope to have in ourselves and in our kids: sound decision making and planning, control over emotions and body, self-understanding, empathy and morality.
As you might expect, a person’s brain works best when the upstairs and downstairs are integrated with each other. So a parent’s goal should be to help build a metaphorical staircase that connects the child’s upper and lower brain so that the two can work together as a team."
Daniel J. Siegel, “The Whole-Brain Child” (via maninsun)
Science reveals clearly that our social world directly shapes how our neural firing unfolds. These studies illuminate how we help one another regulate our internal states through attuning to the internal state of the other person as part of what is called “mutual regulation,” “co-regulation,” or “dyadic regulation.”
Ed Tronick’s Still Face Experiment demonstrates how a young infant’s own equilibrium depends on the attuned, contingent communication with a caregiver who is attending to signals that communicate his or her internal, subjective state. From an IPNB perspective of the mind as an embodied and embedded process, we can understand how relationship connections and neural connections both contribute fully to the creation of our physiological equilibrium and our mental reality."
Daniel J. Siegel (via maninsun)
We listened to a dharma talk at my sangha tonight about renunciation.
A guy my age said that he was really conflicted about knowing about and understanding the benefits of renunciation and being in relationship with another/others that doesn’t share the same ideas or views and how to live that way.
I felt his sadness. At least that’s what I interpreted his tone and vibe as.
It’s hard to live awakening with so many asleep around you. It hurts.
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|2:||Ever been in love?|
|3:||Ever had a terrible breakup?|
|4:||How tall are you?|
|5:||How much do you weigh?|
|6:||Any tattoos do you want?|
|7:||Any piercings that you want?|
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|13:||How old are you?|
|19:||Loud music or soft?|
|20:||Where do you go when you're sad?|
|21:||How long does it take you to shower?|
|22:||How long does it take you to get ready in the morning?|
|23:||Ever been in a physical fight?|
|26:||The reason I joined Tumblr?|
|28:||Last thing that made you cry?|
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|30:||Meaning behind your url|
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|35:||The relationship between you and the person you last texted?|
|37:||Place you want to visit?|
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|39:||Do you have a crush?|
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|41:||Last time you were insulted and what was it?|
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|43:||What color shirt are you wearing?|
|44:||What color bottoms are you wearing?|
|45:||Wearing any bracelets?|
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|48:||Last prank call you remember doing?|
|49:||Last time you hung out with anyone?|